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BDSM, KINK AND FETISHES

BDSM and kink is a lifestyle that adds intentional power exchange (PE) into relationships which explore sexual dominance, submission, fetishism, age-play, and other forms of kink. For some, kinky sex is used to 'spice things up' in the bedroom by adding new activities and toys to their sex life, while others use protocols of dominance and submission to structure their PE relationships. Consent and negotiation are at the heart of this lifestyle. Creating agreements that support the physical, psychological, emotional and sexual needs of both the Dominant and submissive are central to building safety and trust in a BDSM relationship. 

BDSM lifestyle therapy

BDSM relationships add some complexities to otherwise 'vanilla' relationships, and therapy can help both Dominants and submissives resolve issues that continue to cause conflict, such as:

  • one partner wants to add BDSM and the other partner is hesitant

  • unsure how to safely vet play partners or negotiate scenes

  • "Your kink is not my kink....." 

  • complications of adding play partners into existing relationship(s)

  • power struggles between multiple submissives/slaves 

  • differing ideas about Dominant and submissive's responsibilities

  • one or both partners struggle to maintain consistency and follow-through

  • rebuilding broken trust due to dishonesty or infidelity

  • mental health issues like depression or anxiety impact the PE dynamic

Many of my clientele live in relationships that intersect both non-monogamy and power exchange. I can effectively help you navigate these relationships where themes of hierarchy like primary and secondary relationships vs. relationship anarchy become entangled with differing levels of power exchange- Top / bottom, Dominant / submissive or Master / slave.