ONLINE SEX THERAPY IN COLORADO
Specialized therapy for LGBTQIA+ individuals, kink communities, and ethically non-monogamous relationships focusing on sexual health, emotional well-being, and thriving relationships.
Many people carry questions, worries, or frustrations about sex and intimacy for years before talking about them. Whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner, struggling with sexual concerns, exploring your identity, or trying to better understand your desires, therapy offers a space to approach these experiences with curiosity rather than shame.
My goal is to create a supportive, affirming environment where you can talk openly about sexuality, relationships, intimacy, and connection. Together, we'll explore the patterns, experiences, and challenges that may be getting in the way of the sex life and relationships you want.
As trust and communication grow, conversations about sex often become less stressful and more open. Therapy can be a place to explore desires, fantasies, boundaries, and intimacy with curiosity and honesty, helping you and your partner better understand yourselves and each other.
Here are some of the areas we might choose to explore together:
Sexual Health and Well-Being
Sexual well-being is about feeling connected to yourself- your body, emotions, desires, and the ways you experience physical intimacy and connection. It’s about understanding what feels right for you and having the freedom to be yourself without judgment.
Sexual health can be viewed through the lens of consent, transparency, shared experiences, physical and emotional safety, respect, and pleasure. Together, these principles create a foundation for exploring intimacy, relationships, and sexuality in ways that feel authentic and meaningful.
When you approach yourself with curiosity and kindness, it becomes easier to build confidence, self-acceptance, and a more fulfilling relationship with your sexuality. If you’re feeling stuck, uncertain, or confused, sex therapy can provide a space to explore the dimensions of your sexual and erotic self.
LGBTQIA+ Couples Counseling in Colorado
Our sexuality and gender identity is a core part of who we are.
Opening Up Your Relationship in Ethical Non-Monogamy
Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is a relationship style that allows people to explore connections with more than one partner, while staying grounded in honesty, consent, and open communication.
There’s no single way to practice ENM. It can include polyamory, swinging, casual connections, or other relationship structures that reflect the needs and values of the people involved. What matters most is that everyone feels informed, respected, and comfortable with the agreements in place. Building and maintaining trust is foundational to healthy non-monogamous relationships.
While ENM can create opportunities for growth, deeper connection, and self-discovery, it can also bring up challenges such as jealousy, insecurity, or uncertainty.
Topics such as agreements around hierarchy, veto power, effective scheduling, partnership expectations and communication of needs are central to ENM. Therapy can provide a supportive space to navigate these experiences, strengthen communication, and build relationships that feel authentic and fulfilling.
Performance Anxiety
Sex is often meant to be a source of pleasure, connection, and intimacy, but for many people, worries about performance can get in the way. You might find yourself focused on whether your body will respond the way you want it to, whether you're meeting expectations, or whether something might go wrong. When that happens, it can be hard to stay present in your body and enjoy the experience.
These concerns are incredibly common. They can be shaped by past experiences, messages you've absorbed over time, or fears about not being "good enough." Over time, anxiety can create distance from intimacy, your partner, and even yourself.
Sometimes there may be physical challenges as well, such as pain, discomfort, or changes in sexual functioning. Whatever the cause, these experiences can feel frustrating and isolating.
Working through some of these issues with depth, curiosity and compassion can help you feel more relaxed, confident, and connected in your intimate experiences.
Discrepancies in Libido
Differences in sexual desire are a normal part of most relationships at some point in time. It’s common for partners to have different levels of interest in sex, as well as different preferences around intimacy, eroticism, and connection. These differences may show up in how often you want sex, the types of experiences you enjoy, the amount of time you want to spend being intimate, or even when and where intimacy feels most appealing.
Desire naturally changes over time and can be influenced by stress, health, life transitions, relationship dynamics, and past experiences. When these differences aren't talked about openly, they can lead to frustration, misunderstandings, hurt feelings, or a growing sense of distance between partners.
Therapy can provide a space to explore these differences with curiosity rather than blame. By focusing on understanding each other's needs, desires, and experiences, couples can create new opportunities for connection, pleasure, and intimacy while building a relationship that feels more satisfying for both partners.
Power Exchange, Kink and BDSM
Power exchange (PE) is a consensual relationship dynamic in which partners explore different roles involving the giving and receiving of control. It can be part of a BDSM dynamic, take place within intimate relationships, or be woven into everyday life in ways that feel meaningful to those involved.
At its core, power exchange is built on trust, communication, and mutual respect. Partners openly discuss their needs, boundaries, and expectations, creating a foundation that allows exploration to feel safe, consensual, and fulfilling. Dynamics can take many forms, including Dominant/submissive, Top/bottom, Daddy Dom/little, Owner/pup, and others.
BDSM, kink and power exchange offer a way to explore trust, vulnerability, pleasure, identity, and connection. Some are drawn to the psychological aspects of surrendering or holding power, while others are interested in the physical elements of BDSM, such as dominance and submission, sensation play, or sadomasochism. For many, kink provides a space to safely explore fantasies and deepen connection with other consenting adults.
I work with adult clients who are exploring or participating in consensual kink and power exchange relationships. Therapy can provide a space to discuss roles and responsibilities, negotiate boundaries, establish consent practices and safewords, navigate the emotional impact of power exchange, and develop skills that support safe, healthy, and satisfying dynamics.
What Are the Benefits of Sex Therapy?
Sex therapy is talk therapy which offers a non-judgmental space to explore the facets of your sexuality and underlying fears or shame you may feel about it.
HOW WILL MY PARTNER AND I BENEFIT FROM SEX THERAPY?
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Feel more comfortable and confident in your sexuality
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Talk more openly about intimacy, desires, consent and boundaries
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Strengthen trust, closeness, and sexual connection in all relationship structures
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Better understand your sexual needs, desires, and relationship patterns
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Develop a healthier relationship with sex, pleasure, and your body
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Navigate challenges such as performance anxiety, sexual pain, uncomfortable disclosures, or relationship concerns within ethical non-monogamy.
GETTING STARTED WITH ONLINE SEX THERAPY
If you are considering starting online sex therapy, the next step is to schedule a consultation to determine whether my approach aligns with your needs and therapeutic goals.
NOS Counseling offers virtual therapy services to adults across Colorado seeking compassionate, inclusive, and evidence-based support. Please visit the contact page to arrange a consultation and initiate your therapy journey.