SEX THERAPY

When one partner wants non-monogamy and the other wants monogamy, the conversation can raise questions about trust, consent, identity, compatibility, and the future of the relationship. Exploring the difference doesn't require knowing the outcome.

A person can be completely honest in therapy and still be 'managing' their therapist. You may be answering questions openly and genuinely wanting to work on yourself while also paying close attention to how your therapist sees you. What will they think if I say this? Do I need to explain that differently? How much of this do I really want them to know? Sometimes this happens so automatically that we don't realize we're doing it. We soften a detail, leave something out, or tel

I still remember when Fifty Shades of Grey was released. Not because of the book itself, but because of the conversations that followed. People began calling my office, almost sheepishly, admitting they had read it and were surprised by what it awakened in them. Many described feeling both curious and confused. Some felt excited. Others felt guilty. Almost all of them wondered the same thing: "What does this mean about me?"

Finding a therapist is hard enough. Wondering whether you'll have to explain, defend, or hide parts of who you are can make it even harder. For many LGBTQIA+ people living in rural Colorado, that uncertainty—not the search itself—is the biggest barrier to reaching out.

From the very beginning of opening my practice, I knew my North Star would be one simple phrase: When you don't fit the mold. I've identified with those words for as long as I can remember. As much as we celebrate diversity, we're still wired to seek people who are most like us. Similarity feels safe. Difference can feel uncertain—even threatening. And sometimes the hardest differences to accept aren't the ones we see in other people. They're the ones we discover within ourse

When people think about relationship problems, they often separate them into categories. Maybe it is primarily about communication. Maybe it is conflict. Maybe it is sex. ​ In reality, these experiences are usually connected. ​ For many couples, sex is one of the ways they feel close, desired, and connected. When something feels off in the relationship, intimacy often changes too. Likewise, when sex becomes stressful, frustrating, or disconnected, it can affect the relationsh