SEX THERAPY

Somewhere along the way, many of us learn that growing up means becoming serious. I know that of which I speak, and it can be easy to be responsible, productive, and a bit too predictable. We become familiar with the roles we’ve chosen: the productive worker, the dependable partner, the intentional parent, or the person who has everything under control. And while those roles may reflect meaningful parts of who we are and the lives we've intentionally created, they don't neces

Jealousy in polyamorous relationships can bring up fears of being replaced, comparisons with metamours, or concerns about unmet needs. But feeling jealous doesn't mean you're doing polyamory wrong. Explore what jealousy might be telling you, how new relationship energy can affect established partnerships, and why understanding your feelings matters more than trying to eliminate them.

Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable, especially when you're used to putting your partner's needs before your own. But boundaries aren't the opposite of caring. They can create more honesty, trust, and room for both people in a relationship. When someone can trust you to say no, they can begin to trust your yes.

You love your partner, but lately, the thought of sex brings more pressure than excitement. Or maybe you're the one initiating, bracing yourself for another rejection. You might worry about hurting your partner's feelings, wonder what's changed, or question what these differences mean for your relationship. But what if the answer isn't that something is wrong?

When one partner wants non-monogamy and the other wants monogamy, the conversation can raise questions about trust, consent, identity, compatibility, and the future of the relationship. Exploring the difference doesn't require knowing the outcome.

A person can be completely honest in therapy and still be 'managing' their therapist. You may be answering questions openly and genuinely wanting to work on yourself while also paying close attention to how your therapist sees you. What will they think if I say this? Do I need to explain that differently? How much of this do I really want them to know? Sometimes this happens so automatically that we don't realize we're doing it. We soften a detail, leave something out, or tel

I still remember when Fifty Shades of Grey was released. Not because of the book itself, but because of the conversations that followed. People began calling my office, almost sheepishly, admitting they had read it and were surprised by what it awakened in them. Many described feeling both curious and confused. Some felt excited. Others felt guilty. Almost all of them wondered the same thing: "What does this mean about me?"

Finding a therapist is hard enough. Wondering whether you'll have to explain, defend, or hide parts of who you are can make it even harder. For many LGBTQIA+ people living in rural Colorado, that uncertainty—not the search itself—is the biggest barrier to reaching out.

From the very beginning of opening my practice, I knew my North Star would be one simple phrase: When you don't fit the mold. I've identified with those words for as long as I can remember. As much as we celebrate diversity, we're still wired to seek people who are most like us. Similarity feels safe. Difference can feel uncertain—even threatening. And sometimes the hardest differences to accept aren't the ones we see in other people. They're the ones we discover within ourse

Why do couples keep having the same arguments without resolving anything? Explore how assumptions, defensiveness, and familiar communication patterns keep relationships stuck—and how curiosity and better listening can help change the conversation.

When people think about relationship problems, they often separate them into categories. Maybe it is primarily about communication. Maybe it is conflict. Maybe it is sex. ​ In reality, these experiences are usually connected. ​ For many couples, sex is one of the ways they feel close, desired, and connected. When something feels off in the relationship, intimacy often changes too. Likewise, when sex becomes stressful, frustrating, or disconnected, it can affect the relationsh